7 Old-School Dating Habits We Wish Men Would Bring Back
I’m convinced some dating stories are urban myth and made-for-movies only. Men don’t actually call to ask you on a date—that’s done by text with just 20 minutes lead time, right? And pick you up at the door? Excuse me while I giggle to myself and walk alone to the bar, where we’ll meet for drinks—just drinks, not dinner—even if I’m starving. Sigh. If you feel me, let’s start a little online movement, right here, to bring back some old-school dating habits.
1. Pick us up at the door. We’ve all been on the receiving end of a text message sent from the driver’s seat of our date’s car that alerts us he’s “here.” And that’s if he offered to pick us up in the first place, rather than inviting us to meet him to “hang out.” By walking to our doors, a man shows a little effort—we’re talking 30 seconds here—and a lot of respect.
__2.__And while you’re there, bring us a bouquet of flowers. There’s perhaps no more simple or sweet way to show your affection. Unfortunately, because it is a clear sign of adoration the act of gifting flowers on a first or even second date has become uncool. Many men and women like to remain aloof, lest they come off too invested too soon. We all need to remember they’re just flowers, not a marriage proposal.
3. Take us to dinner. Or dancing. Or skydiving. (Not really, but you get the point). A date where we meet at a bar for copious amounts of alcohol with zero food to soak it up isn’t a date—it’s a test to see if you really like us and if you don’t, a cheap evening and an easy out. Spend the time (and even money) to get to know us.
4. Put your cell phone in your pocket, and make sure it stays there. Attending and watching dates where phones illuminate the table tops more than candles just makes me sad. When you pocket your iPhone, you show that the most important thing that deserves your attention is across the table.
5. Ask us to dance. Not sex-on-the-dance-floor-grinding, but real dancing that’s done just for fun and not form. Slow dancing, where our cheeks press together and you can whisper what a lovely evening you’ve had, and tell us you’d like to see us again.
__6. Don’t make us guess if we’re “going steady.” __There was once a time—or so I’m told—when a man would ask a woman to be his girlfriend, rather than the woman timidly introducing him months later as her boyfriend just to see if he would cringe or nod encouragingly. What a sweet relief to not only know where you stand but to know you’re wanted.
7. Write us a love letter. We don’t need to date a modern-day Robert Browning. But how nice it is to see your feelings penned on paper for us to save and reread and smile each time we do.
What other old-school dating moves would you like to make a comeback? Are there any old-school dating rituals you’re glad have gone by the wayside?