He Keeps Flirting With Me, but He Has a Girlfriend. What Do I Do?
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So, I like this guy—a lot, actually—the only problem is that he has a girlfriend. However, he flirts (or so I assume) relentlessly with me. Even my best friend says he talks to me and acts a certain way with only me and no one else. He makes comments like he hates when I’m not around because it’s boring and says if we went out he’d buy me drinks. We have these amazing conversations. Am I just thinking too into it? I don’t want to ask him myself because I’m not the type of girl to break up a relationship, but I’m so curious to know what he may be thinking. Can you offer me some input?
Thank you so much,
There are only two ways to find out what this guy is thinking. 1) Break into his email and read everything he’s every written about you and/or the girlfriend, or 2) talk to him.
As your “lawyer,” I’m advising option 2.
It sounds to Jake like he’s into you. Maybe he’s comfortable (a.k.a. bored) in his relationship, and you provide him with something he’s not getting. So, you just need to sit him down and ask, point blank, what’s the deal? I know you don’t want to be the kind of girl who breaks up relationships, but if he’s being that flirtatious with you, it’s probably a sign that something is wrong in his relationship.
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